In one of my rare (unbacklogged) posts this week, I’m posting a comment from my mother-in-law and father-in-law mostly about Bob’s depression. Read below:
We love, support and encourage Bob and Marissa in every way that we can think of or are asked of. We wish that we had known more of what Bob was going through in his childhood and in his school and college years but he kept it very well hidden. We as parents maybe should have seen through some of what was going on but Bob tells us now that he became a master at keeping it hidden and we are not to blame for not realizing. That doesn’t make it any easier as parents to accept that we were oblivious to our own child’s needs but it is something that we are working on changing and accepting so that we can NOW be there for them, to do all that we can NOW to give them all the backup, encouragement, support and love that we can. There is nothing in this world that we wouldn’t do for our children (including our loving daughter-in-laws). We want the best for them and for their lives, we wish them contentment, stability, happiness, love, an understanding of each other and a willingness to forgive and forget – that they would turn to each other and us but most of all God in times of need. We pray that they will let us “in” and find a need for us as much as we need them. We hope that they can remember to pick their battles – to not sweat the petty stuff, to give and forgive freely and openly to each other and others. Bob and Marrissa mean the world to Dad and I, there is nothing that they can’t tell us, show us, do, think, or act on that would make us turn away from them – we just love them!
Family support is not just a bonus; it’s a real necessity.