Trying to conceive with mental illness

I’m now in a new phase of my life. Last August, I came off of my bipolar disorder medication and have tried to regulate my mood through natural remedies such as taking 1000 mg of fish oil and multivitamins and by exercising regularly.

I’m also trying to get pregnant.

I haven’t wanted to discuss this particular phase of my life as I think it’s a very personal and private time. However, the emotional and mental toll that TTC (trying to conceive) brings upon someone who struggles with mental illness, I think, is worth discussion.

I wrongly assumed that when I decided that I wanted to have a child, I’d automatically be able to get pregnant. (Bristol Palin had no problem, right?) Several cycles later, I find myself still childless and even more desperately yearning for a child than the month before.

The mental anguish of TTC month after month is tough for any normal woman. During this phase of life, women may experience the following feelings:

  • Anger
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Low self-esteem
  • Social isolation
  • Sexual dysfunction
  • Marital problems

In a woman who suffers from depression, bipolar disorder, or any other mental illness, those feelings can become so intensely extreme that they can be debilitating.

I can’t even begin to explain the psychology behind the agony a women endures when she desperately hopes for a child, only to be disappointed by a negative pregnancy test or the monthly visitation from a visitor commonly known as Aunt Flo. Month after month and year after year, the pendulum of emotions range from anger to despair. How is it possible to want and love someone so much whom you’ve never met?

For me, I’ve found that I am relatively sane and able to go on with life for about a week after trying. When I am a day or two away from my expected period, I am thrown into such emotional turmoil that I am nearly inconsolable. Part of it has to do with the sadness that accompanies my body preparing itself for the beginning of a new cycle; the other part of it is the emotional roller coaster that comes along with PMS (premenstrual syndrome). Throw in a dash of bipolar disorder and there’s no limit to how despondent I can be. I can only imagine the same would be true for women who suffer from other mental illnesses.

During those times, I’ve tried turning my eyes toward God and attempting to put my faith in His wisdom for my life, but I feel so isolated and so alone that I wonder if even God could comfort me. The pain of hoping for a child each month then discovering that it is not to be brings a sense of abandonment (for some reason). Negative thoughts creep into your mind at a furtive pace:

  • I’m not meant to be a mother because I’m already suffering from a mental illness and God is doing any kids I’d have a favor by not bringing them into this world through me.
  • I’d be a terrible mother anyway.
  • What is wrong with my body? Why can’t I conceive?
  • There’s no point in me living if I can’t have a child. I want a child of my own so desperately that I just don’t want to live anymore if I can’t have one.

Each month, a woman trying to conceive goes through the five stages of grief:

  1. Denial (The pregnancy test must be wrong; I’m pregnant for sure. Maybe my hormones haven’t been detected yet.)
  2. Anger (Why is this happening to me? What’s wrong with me?)
  3. Bargaining (I’ll do anything be pregnant. Please, just give me a baby.)
  4. Depression (I’ll never get pregnant. What’s the point? I’ll be a terrible mother anyway.)
  5. Acceptance (I’m not pregnant. [Some women can also say: But at least we can try again in the next cycle.])

I usually go through all that in the course of, oh, about 2 days.

I haven’t been trying for an extremely long period of time so I’m not classified as infertile but the internal and external pressure of trying to conceive can be stressful nonetheless:

  • Family members ask when a little one will arrive in your family
  • Friends and family members will have conceived (and even given birth) to a child within the time you’ve been attempting to conceive
  • Well-meaning people offer advice to simply “relax” and go on vacation to get pregnant
  • Pregnant women you know will complain about all the awful symptoms of pregnancy
  • Mothers you know will complain about all the downsides of parenting and rarely offer the upsides

I haven’t fully figured out how to deal with the uncomfortable situations I find myself in with others or the drained energy that comes from learning of a barren womb. This site provides coping techniques for normal women dealing with infertility, but I want to go a step farther in specifically addressing women TTC who suffer with some kind of mental issue:

  • Talk to a trusted doctor or counselor. Determine this is the path that you want to be on and discuss how to develop strategies in the face of another disappointing month.
  • Determine whether you need to take medication (if you’re not already on it). I tapered off of my mood stabilizer in the hopes of being able to have a natural birth and breastfeed. I’m altering those dreams. It’s not the end of the world if I have to have a baby in the hospital and a child won’t die if I feed it formula. (Although I’ll probably catch flak in the Christian community because what self-respecting mother doesn’t breastfeed?! [sarcasm])
  • Determine whether you need an adjustment in medication if you are taking something. Is the medication you are on relatively safe for pregnancy? Will you need to switch? Is the medication you’re currently on affecting your ability to adequately deal with the emotional pendulum that accompanies TTC?
  • Consider using natural mood-boosting remedies to bolster your mood. I know it’s cliche to mention this, but for some women suffering from mental illness, natural remedies actually do help. (For some women, natural remedies have little to no effect.) Here are a few to try:
    • Take at least 1000 mg of Omega-3 fatty acids daily. BEWARE: 1200 mg of fish oil does not equal 1200 mg of Omega-3s! I take 900 mg capsules of fish oil that only contain 450 mg of Omega-3s each. I need to take at least 3 capsules to get more than 1000 mg of Omega-3s. You can also get the weekly required amount of Omega-3s by eating fish twice a week. (Science Daily)
    • Take daily multivitamins with at least 400 mcg of folic acid. Folic acid helps lower the risk of birth defects in a baby. For me, I need the iron supplement to help me fight fatigue as I don’t eat many foods rich in iron.
    • Exercise regularly. I’ve been exercising about 3-4 times a week for about 30 minutes. Exercising temporarily boosts my mood although that’s only been a recent occurrence (within the past year).
    • Try to steer clear of mood-altering substances. The depression that accompanies not having a child can drive a woman to smoke, drink too much alcohol, or engage in the use of illegal drugs. (I’m guilty of having a bit too much wine.) Although we all know to avoid this stuff when TTC, it’s sometimes hard to resist. But try.

I hope this post can be of some help to women who are trying to conceive but also suffer from mental illness. We may be a small minority but we’re not alone. Feel to offer feedback on this post by leaving a comment.

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64 Comments

  1. courtscreations0709 said,

    May 21, 2010 at 10:34 pm

    Hello!! I just read your post, and I really felt for you. I myself suffered from an eating disorder, and it was no walk in the park. And, to tell everyone about it like you just did, well, bravo to you!! I see you are not ashamed of this mental illness. Too many people just brush off people with mental disorders, they don’t try to understand us. At one point in my life, I considered suicide, so people can’t tell me that a mental illness is “no big deal”.
    As for you conceiving a child of your own, I know how that feels, I felt the same way, I wanted so badly to have a baby, my arms ached to hold this child. It is a hard process to go through, but I survived! I now have two boys that keep me going and alive.
    I wanted to tell you too, that God is there for you, I know it doesn’t seem that way, but He is. I don’t know if you have read this verse before, but it is one of my favorites, especially if I am feeling depressed. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future – Jeremiah 29:11. God loves you and has plans for you, you don’t see the big picture like He does, but one day you will.
    I really wish the best for you and kudos again to you for bringing some light to this not talked about subject!!
    Peace and Love,
    Courtney

    • Kass said,

      May 21, 2010 at 10:52 pm

      Thanks, Courtney. Peace and love to you as well.

    • Charles said,

      June 25, 2012 at 9:26 am

      I hate when people act like its no big deal as well. I can feel my heart pounding just thinking about it. I’ve been in and out of hospitals four times with bi polar 1. I go to a na meetings ever since bipolar brought me there. I hear things like ” oh please we all have it. I feel like saying ” starting fights with people does not make you bipolar it makes you an insensitive prick! ” i also HATE when people try to work the system claiming to be bipolar. It took me a few years to finally reach acception! I actually had a guy tell me once ” yeah I’m going in tell the doc I have bipolar, I figure bi polar has such a wide range of accepting traits” !!!!!! What?! Here I am terrified I’m going to have an episode or even kill myself if I can’t buy the meds need. One of my meds alone from the others cost about $24,000a year!!!! Stuck in a catch 22 with working and meds, and THIS guy isn’t even bi polar!!!! The people who actually have it are put through hell b/c of anxiety and other emotional issues with the disorder! I can always tell the people who really have it and/or have it badly. You can see the pain, Sadness,and shame in their eyes. To the subject though, I plan on having a baby in the to 3 to 4 years, and hope I receive sis and more help so bad things won’t happen to me or the baby. I don’t mean to harp on the same subject, but it hurts so much when I have to suppress my pain in na bc of all the ignorant people brush me off and think I’m a baby. Not just there I had a job where they would constantly talk about me, I even was treated my my terrible boss. People just tell me I’m being paranoid! I need so much more help than I’m getting it’s so draining and frustrating. I just keep repeating its ok don’t worry keep going ! To all those with bi polar I feel your pain and hope one day we can all live a somewhat “normal” life with our own family who all love each other! If any one would like to talk through of ace book my name is Katy Charles. Much love! Keep strong keep going, and keep your chin up!

  2. Jessica said,

    May 22, 2010 at 2:01 pm

    This is helpful and informative. Thank you so much for sharing the truth of where you are… I’m not one to be able to give any kind of fertility advise. So to hear this perspective coupled with considering the mental health issues is great as I endeavor to look out for the women I encounter. It is difficult to understand all the emotions.
    And to find someone able to use natural methods of treating bipolar, depression is great.
    Thank you for being raw and real.
    Praying…

    • Kass said,

      May 22, 2010 at 2:02 pm

      Thanks, Jessica. This is the most vulnerable I have been in a very long time. Not easy.

  3. Char Brooks said,

    June 1, 2010 at 4:24 pm

    Hey Kass:

    You’re my hero today!!! Seriously.
    You are sooooo real and honest about what’s true for you right now. TTC is really hard when you’ve been at it for a while and the insight you have on how this works when you’ve got a mental health issue is phenomenal.
    As someone who struggles with depression and also works to empower patients and providers speak the same language, you have helped me understand more about how TTC has specific nuances to those with mental health issues.

    • Kass said,

      June 1, 2010 at 4:25 pm

      Great! Glad I’ve been able to help. :)

  4. Pigtails said,

    June 4, 2010 at 9:35 pm

    Hubby and I have been trying to get pregnant for over a year and a half. My summer depression has set in and has made coping with all the negetive preg. tests so much worse. Plus, my sister is pregnant with twins, she got pregnant on the first try, my sister in law is pregnant, and my best friend just got pregnant without even trying. I want to choke them all! Jk , but I can see where you are coming from. Good luck and I know how friggin tough it is.

  5. June 20, 2010 at 9:24 pm

    Hello!! I just read your post, and I really felt for you. I myself suffered from an eating disorder, and it was no walk in the park. And, to tell everyone about it like you just did, well, bravo to you!! I see you are not ashamed of this mental illness. Too many people just brush off people with mental disorders, they don’t try to understand us. At one point in my life, I considered suicide, so people can’t tell me that a mental illness is “no big deal”.As for you conceiving a child of your own, I know how that feels, I felt the same way, I wanted so badly to have a baby, my arms ached to hold this child. It is a hard process to go through, but I survived! I now have two boys that keep me going and alive.I wanted to tell you too, that God is there for you, I know it doesn’t seem that way, but He is. I don’t know if you have read this verse before, but it is one of my favorites, especially if I am feeling depressed. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future – Jeremiah 29:11. God loves you and has plans for you, you don’t see the big picture like He does, but one day you will.I really wish the best for you and kudos again to you for bringing some light to this not talked about subject!!Peace and Love,Courtney
    +1

  6. Carla said,

    July 1, 2010 at 8:30 am

    Hi Kass! I just wanted to thank you for the info you have posted here. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder after the birth of my son in 2009. Recently we have decided to try for another child and going off my mood stabilizer has been….challenging. I didn’t know how different and better I could feel with the medicine and now without them I am struggling. I want so badly to have another baby but I feel alone in the process even though I am not. My husband tries to be as supportive as he can and I know he really is, but with my bipolar I think so irrationally, it’s hard to explain. I want to get pregnant but have to wait now for my meds to clear my system and that is more frustrating. They say with the hormones and stuff that I should feel better once I get pregnant, that many women don’t have a problem during pregnancy, but I have to wait months before I can even try! I want to thank you for the info on the Omega-3′s and fish oil, I really want to try this out and hope it helps, I want to be happy and excited during this time! Best of luck and I will pray for you! I’m glad to know I’m not alone in all this :)

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  8. July 9, 2010 at 3:05 am

    Hi Kass

    I just wanted to let you know that there are some studies on using omega 3 fish oil in bipolar disorder. Although they are small studies they showed that depression (but not mania) is significantly improved after as little as 6 weeks with high dose fish oil. The doses that have been used in scientific trials are higher than what you are using, and they use a concentrated and specific form of Omega 3 (called EPA and DHA). The doses that are used in adults are 1000-2000mg EPA and 500-1500mg DHA. (In 1000mg of standard Omega 3 you usually get around 100-200mg of EPA and DHA). You may have to get this high dose fish oil through a natural health practitioner (and it’s always best to get medical advice before starting any treatments).

    There are other natural treatments that could help bipolar depression that will be safe in pregnancy and during breastfeeding. I’ve recently written a book on the physical causes of depression (hormone imbalances, nutrient deficiencies, toxins etc) and how to treat them naturally. I hope this information can help some of your readers.

    Thanks.
    Janelle

  9. Em said,

    July 21, 2010 at 10:08 am

    I don’t know how I missed this comment the first time I read this. “(Although I’ll probably catch flak in the Christian community because what self-respecting mother doesn’t breastfeed?! [sarcasm])”

    Several woman have given birth recently at my church and it looks like bottle vs breast is about half and half. And when Bethy was born, there was only one other baby that was breastfed in the nursery. The other 3-4 were bottle fed. If you catch flak, you need to find a more-Christian community. :P

    • Kass said,

      July 21, 2010 at 10:11 am

      I may not but doing things naturally and breast feeding is overwhelmingly popular in my church. I have a friend who’s a working mom AND breastfeeding! O_o

      • Em said,

        July 21, 2010 at 10:27 am

        I’m a big proponent of “do what works.” Due to health issues, my (other) bff had 2 Csections and bottle fed. I’m a wuss with a low tolerance for pain, so I’ll be getting an epidural. Everyone’s situations are different and those who think there’s a one-size-fits-all model for pre-pregnancy/pregnancy/childbirth/child rearing need to be slapped.

        /soapbox

  10. adeyera said,

    August 4, 2010 at 7:06 am

    This is an interesting and educative post.I think a lot of women need to read your post.God is able to turn one;s mourning to joy.To me depression is curable medically and spiritually.Keep up the good work.

  11. Sarah Johnson said,

    August 31, 2010 at 5:51 pm

    Please update!

    I just found this blog…I have both depression and have been trying to conceive for 11 months with no success. I hope you are doing well.

  12. 1morebite said,

    November 1, 2010 at 1:42 pm

    I am about to stumble upon this process. I am also bipolar, While I was still medicated for the longest time, I weened myself off of all my meds about a year after ECT’s. I still have my ups and downs, but no where like how they were b4. I have been severe episode free since mid 2007. I also suffer from pcos. I have been doing everything that I can possibly do to make changes in my life that I do have control over. I have managed to go from being 196 pounds overweight to 70lbs overweight and hope to defeat that as well b4 end of next year. I know taking better care of myself cant hurt, but I do worry about all the what if’s. I appreciate you posting this blog. I just wanted to say Thank you. All my life I have just wanted to be a good mother. Now that I am in a stable relationship and happily married, it feels so strange to actually be planning. The rush of excitment and hope and joy mixed in with already feelings of anxiety and what ifs and feeling like a failure if it doesnt work out all at the same time are enough to knock the wind out of you sometimes. I remember the deep depression that I went through when I was still in high school and was told I had pcos and would have fertility problems. I am trying to prepare myself the best way I can. And Therapy looks like that may be the best answer for me during this journey I am about to take. I wish you the absolute best and hope you are doing well.

    Michelle

    • Kass said,

      November 15, 2010 at 7:22 pm

      Thanks, Michelle, and best wishes to you.

  13. November 2, 2010 at 9:02 pm

    I’m sorry for what you’re going through, and at the same time, extremely grateful that I stumbled across your blog. Best of luck in your journey.

    ~ CLM

  14. Jamie said,

    December 6, 2010 at 3:00 pm

    Thank you for sharing! My husband and I have been in and out of talks about TTC for months now, but we have fear of my mental wellness during pregnancy and being a stay at home mom. I already have a 5 year old son and had a very hard time raising him, but I don’t feel that my depression is a reason to stop having children. “If I could do it once, I can do it again” is what I tell myself. My first son, I was pretty much alone with, as his father was not emotionally or physically supportive until he was forced to take 1/2 custody of him! My husband is extremely supportive mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually, so I can only hope that the process would be smoother than my first child.

    This blog is very inspirational and I look forward to hearing more about your journey through difficult and “not-so-difficult” times. (Please do share the not-so-difficult!)

    Hopefully, I will continue to have the courage to have more children.

  15. crazymama said,

    December 10, 2010 at 2:11 pm

    I just found your blog and am really enjoying reading some backposts. I went through the same emotions that you are describing while trying to conceive. I didn’t have infertility issues, but had conceived my first child Bristol Palin-style, so I thought that once I was married and ready to try again it would happen instantly. We tried for many months to have my second daughter, and thank goodness were able to do so without any medical intervention. Then, when she was 8 months old, daughter number three announced her impending arrival much to all of our surprise. That was a long story, but my main point is that it’s a hard time and even harder when you already deal with unstable moods, whether you struggle with depression (as I do) or bipolar disorder. Good luck to you!

  16. crazymama said,

    December 10, 2010 at 2:17 pm

    I also wanted to add that I see a lot of people have commented about how having a baby “kept them going” or helped them with their depression. I am so happy for them, but also wanted to draw attention to the flip side of the coin — I have struggled with severe, chronic depression for my entire life, but it has never been as bad as when I am raising young children. There is a reason that new mothers are statistically the most depressed population. All the strategies I had worked out for coping with my depression (taking care of myself, getting alone time, getting adequate sleep, etc) were suddenly either extremely difficult or downright impossible. I write about my struggle with this on my blog http://www.babymakescrazy.blogspot.com I’m not at all saying that a depressed person shouldn’t have kids, so PLEASE don’t think I am giving advice, I’m just telling you about my own struggle. Again, good luck with everything and I look forward to reading your blog!

  17. Owen Abrey said,

    December 14, 2010 at 4:05 pm

    Hello, I am a male so I am perhaps the least able to connect around the issue of TTC. I was however a minister for 22 years–until depression broke me.
    Probably related to a little bit of stress… I know depression very well, unfortunately in many respects. But I do know what it feels like. My understanding is that God knows too. Jesus came here to bear the sins (and illnesses) of the world. In the worst of times when I had no more strength to live all I could do is lay before God and ask him to carry the load, even when He felt far far away. I keep hearing him say: “My grace is sufficient for you”.

    Even though I have a little spirituality, I know that God has gifted us with a day when mental illnesses can be treated and even healed medically. He has given doctors and scientists great insight into the inner workings of our brain. My doctors (some of whom are Christians) are part of the medicine that helps me to get well. I would encourage you to find a great doctor who understands bi-polar meds. Some of whom have negligible effect on pre-borns. It is possible to lay out a strategy to come off them after conception.

    Pregnancy and BPD can be difficult to manage. Getting a great doctor is key to getting it to work together.

    Just my thoughts.

    Rev. O. Abrey

  18. Owen Abrey said,

    December 14, 2010 at 4:09 pm

    GAh forgot to set up follow up notifications. If you want to respond, please respond here so I get the email attention.

  19. shah wharton said,

    February 28, 2011 at 4:28 am

    I went through IVF twice last year and a reduced med level. It clear wiped me out emotionally. It didn’t work and I’m wondering whether to try again. I’m 39 this year and have extensive internal scarring and one mangled tube left. It’s awful.

    Shah. X

  20. Ana said,

    March 10, 2011 at 3:20 am

    I miss you Marisa.
    Please, write something to say how you’re doing.
    Love,
    Ana

  21. menstrual said,

    April 3, 2011 at 8:57 am

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  22. Supriya said,

    June 7, 2011 at 3:07 am

    this is the first time i am reading your blog, and trust me i know what you are going through. i live with my in laws who make it a point to be mean to me, and i find myself weeping copiously almost once a week. i used to be a happy person once upon a time. dont know if i will be happy ever again in that happy shiny way. add to this the fact that i have PCOD which does not respond to any treatments because of my emotional stress. and yes the thought does cross my mind about what kind of a mother will i be when i myself am in a turmoil and so emotionally vulnerable. i do hope that people like us someday manage to be happy the way the world untouched by our problems does.

  23. ciara said,

    June 8, 2011 at 5:43 pm

    I found your post so very comforting.
    I suffer with depression and anxiety and have been TTC with my husband for 8 months now.ALOT of people I know are trying and falling and i know over 10 pregnant women,one of which i work with,and I find it so very painful to be anywhere near a pregnant woman.I feel ever so depressed lately and just can’t understand why I am not falling,i feel hard done by and am so full of anger about the whole situation.
    I’ve done all the research,take the right vitamins,spent ridiculous sums of money on pregnancy test and ovulation kits.Is there something wrong with my husbands fertility?he is 25 years my senior with a past of drugs and heavy smoking but asking him outright is just plain rude and embarassing if he thinks he’s infertile,he could be totally fertile and I’d just hurt his feelings and he’d feel like it’s his fault we’re not concieving.
    every mother or pregnant woman i see has stupid advice to give you and tell’s you “oh don’t worry it will happen” ofcourse you can say that,YOU’RE the one who’s pregnant and how dare you belittle me like that.
    I know in my heart there are so many other couples with bigger problems than mine,i just feel so alone and like everything is against me.
    I am so ready to be a mother and yet for some unfair,unkown reason it seems like it’s happening to everyone but me.
    my heart goes out to anyone having a hard time concieving

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  25. Maria said,

    August 16, 2011 at 8:00 pm

    Thank you for writing about your struggles. It’s helpful to know I’m not the only one dealing with some of these issues.

    I did want to let you know that breastfeeding may not be out of the question with medications. InfantRisk.com has a hotline that prenatal and breastfeeding moms can call to get up-to-date, evidence-based info about the safety of meds and pregnancy/breastfeeding. Many drug companies do not test in breastfeeding women and therefore advise against breastfeeding, just to cover themselves. Often, the risks of formula feeding outweigh the risks of breastfeeding with meds.

    I am praying that a baby will be on the way soon for you!

  26. September 15, 2011 at 6:55 am

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  27. Lyndsay said,

    November 22, 2011 at 11:07 pm

    everything you said about the thoughts going thru your head of why cant i have a child i dont want to live with out one is so true. its like you looked at me and wrote this about me with one exception…i have a now 4yr old daughter with an ex. my husband and i have been married for over a year and trying this whole time he also has a child from a past relationship….theres no signs that we are “out of order” but its like month to month rip my heart out cry get angry and i suffer severe depression it has been well controlled before we started trying to concieve but every month we dont get pregnant its like a knife in the heart at times it seems to be tearing us apart from each other. im just glad to finally find that there is someone out there like me and that im not alone in this thank you for making this page. i guess now its try to be optimistic….

  28. mercy said,

    January 19, 2012 at 10:34 pm

    i have been trying to concive for a while now and i am depressed and im bipolar, just seeing that sombody else is going through the same thing really helps and i do go throught the 5 stages of grief in about 2 days like you. there really isnt anything out there to sooth the pain or anger but it make a huge diffrence to know that im not alone. thank you

  29. Britney said,

    May 14, 2012 at 5:37 pm

    Thank you fro starting this blog. I feel like crying and I am relaxed at the same time. I had a miscarraige in 2/12 and have been having TCC and depression. I sometimes do not know what to do. I am trying to work, go to school, raise a 5yr daughter, plan a wedding and move. I feel like there is too much on my plate and I do not know how to stop. Then when it time for my period or the baby’s death date rolls around, I am beside myself, asking why is this happening to me? This blog and all the responses, lets me know I am not alone. Thansk you ladie for every heart felt word you typed. as it has helped someone (ME) rethink about my situation and how to rearrange my thoughts and my busy life.

  30. Sea said,

    August 13, 2012 at 8:39 pm

    I have anxiety and depression and it was helpful to read your post. We are starting to try for our second. I remember the feelings when trying for our first. I successfully stopped my medication the first time – but just stopped it the second time and it is hard so far. Dealing with a lot of the same issues. Thanks for your post.

  31. Melissa said,

    March 28, 2013 at 7:58 pm

    This is so helpful and makes me feel a little bit better. I have been trying to get pregnant for a year and a half and nothing is working. i also suffer from bipolar disorder and dealing with it is extremely difficult. I keep hoping that my next cycle will be the one but it never works. this post at least make me feel like I am not alone. Hopefully my time will come to have a little one but I am losing hope. Thank you so much for posting this for people like me who are having a rough time dealing:-)

  32. tehnayah2 said,

    April 18, 2013 at 12:19 am

    My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for six years now. We recently have been seeing a fertility specialist. We have done one IUI with no luck. My husband has a sperm count which goes up and down,(the doctor has recomended him taking the Proxeed supplement which he is doing going on the second month now. He also has low motility and morphology. The fertility treatments are already getting so expensive, we may have to stop real soon. The doctor has recomended that we I take injections of HMG to bring on ovalutation, followed by another IUI. (IVF is totally out of the question because of the expense. Getting to my question now, How is this going to help or will this be effective when it’s my husband who has low sperm count? It just seems to me that if the sperm are unable to fertilize the egg it will not matter how many are produced. I am was so confused until i contacted this powerful spell caster called DaDDY ALOMAJESELE who help me with his oracle spell which he obtained from his father who he always called ALOMA, i was help by his spell powers to conceive and now i am gave birth to a bouncing baby boy called LENNIS WART, we are happily settled in our family and glad to have this spell caster as our father, thank you SIR DAddy ALOMAJESELE for helping me get pregnant, you can reach him now at DaDDY_YOYOspelltemple@hotmail.com

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    September 2, 2013 at 3:24 pm

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  34. amanda said,

    September 20, 2013 at 10:36 am

    My husband and I have been married for 11 years. We have been trying to have intercourse, year after year. I thought I was a loser, a weakling. I couldn’t believe I couldn’t handle pain. I always thought “how come everyone can do it but me? What is wrong with me?” I felt I was the only one in this world that had this problem. One day my husband came home and showed me this website he had printed out. It was about vaginismus and pages and pages of women sharing their stories and testimony on how a spell caster help them make babies, MY STORIES!!!! I started crying like a little baby. I couldn’t believe I wasn’t the only one in this world. I was not a wimp, I really had a problem. To make my very long story short, I i decided to contact this spell caster Dr Odia on his email (nelly.mbayabu02@gmail.com) or skype with him on his ID. kelly.white725, after interaction with him he instructed me on what to do, after then i had sex with the man I love most in this world, within the next one months i went for a check up and my doctor confirmed that i am 2weeks pregnant and so happy!!!!! and My husband was the one that found the site, who I will always be thankful to, not for finding it but for believing in me and not leaving me. And thank YOU Dr odia for saving my marriage. Thank you so much. To all those women out there, contact this great spell caster on this email (nelly.mbayabu02@gmail.com) skype ID: kelly.white725, he can solve your problem and be patient and also believe in yourself. It will happen to you, just like it happened to me.

  35. September 30, 2013 at 7:13 am

    Hello everyone you need to read my story on how I got pregnant, today is my first daughters one year birthday and I want to use this medium to tell all women who have lost hope and are in pain of not having their baby or getting pregnant. and am 46years old and I have been trying to get pregnant and I have been married for over 22 years with no child and during this period I have married 2 different men still I didn’t get pregnant for my husbands during this period thou my ex husband loved me but because their was no child they ended up leaving me until I married again my third husband who promised to stay with me no matter what I new he loved me but I can feel the loneliness in his eyes when ever he saw a little baby , thou he wasn’t saying anything I new he was not happy so one day I was browsing the internet on how to get pregnant until I saw a comment saying how DR Zogo has help them get pregnant with his pregnancy spell , so I copied the email address of the great spell caster and I sent him a mail and said all my sorrows and told him what I want was to get a child I can call my own child, he replied me and he ask me for some information which I gave and did all he ask me to do he bought some items and use it to cast the pregnancy spell and after few days I noticed some feelings and I checked with the doctor it was confirm that I was pregnant and I promised my self I will tell the world of this great spell caster once my child is a year old, today is my child birthday and am using this medium to tell all those that use to be in my case to contact DR Zogo for help, he has help me and I believe he can help you if you need to contact him this is his personal email address zogospellcasters@gmail.com

  36. maya boris said,

    October 29, 2013 at 10:07 pm

    i want to say a big thanks to ASHRA for helping me with a cleanse and pregnancy spell after many years of trying to get pregnant and have a lovely baby, i have tried diffrent options but to no avail until i saw online about ashra spell temple and i contacted ashra requesting for a pregnancy spell , now am pregnant with my second baby and the doctor said its twins ,ashra is legit and good thats the reason why am giving out ashras email : ashraspelltemple@gmail.com or call ashra directly on +2348058176311 for those that are suffring from similar situation

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  55. June 30, 2014 at 1:36 pm

    y husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for six years now. We recently have been seeing a fertility specialist. We have done one IUI with no luck. My husband has a sperm count which goes up and down,(the doctor has recomended him taking the Proxeed supplement which he is doing going on the second month now. He also has low motility and morphology. The fertility treatments are already getting so expensive, we may have to stop real soon. The doctor has recomended that we I take injections of HMG to bring on ovalutation, followed by another IUI. (IVF is totally out of the question because of the expense. Getting to my question now, How is this going to help or will this be effective when it’s my husband who has low sperm count? It just seems to me that if the sperm are unable to fertilize the egg it will not matter how many are produced. I am was so confused until i contacted this powerful spell caster called Dr Babaka Wolf who help me with his oracle spell which he obtained from his father who he always called BABAKA , i was help by his spell powers to conceive and now i am gave birth to a bouncing baby boy called LENNIS WART, we are happily settled in our family and glad to have this spell caster as our father, thank you SIR Dr Babaka Wolf for helping me get pregnant, you can reach him now via email: babaka.wolf@gmail.com

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